A few things I have learnt on self-love.
When they say time heals, they mean time will heal only if
you allow it too. Time will heal if you acknowledge there are wounds, time will
heal if you know you are flawed.
And that’s okay to admit, it will take nothing but time and
courage to realise what has scarred you but you know what? Life is filled with
ups and downs you’re going to learn that life is a river that will flow forward
no matter how rocky the path is.
Keep looking forward and let time heal, it’s okay to cry now
but I want you to know, before you get there that there is a future, just let
time do its work.
You will lose hope. You will collapse to your knees
wondering why you have to bleed for a heart that feels so heavy and eyes that
never stop crying, and you know what? It’s not okay. It’s not okay to feel this
way that’s why I am going to ask you to cry. Hurt. Be in pain. But no matter
what, you get back up. You get back up and you see that sunset you love. If
everything you love in life is lost then create new memories. It’s not okay, and
things like this might happen again, but when life knocks you down you get back
up and prepare yourself for another good fight, and you will win, and by win I
mean, every breath you take you will feel alive again and not wanting to be
dead.
When you stand in front of the mirror and you’re wondering
why you’re not pretty or skinny enough. Stop. You’re beautiful. You’re so
beautiful. You are going to ask me how I know, and I know, cause when you’re 65
and you have wrinkles and you’re walking slowly cause your knees hurt it won’t
matter how you looked when you’re 14 cause someone will fall in love with you.
Not only for your looks but for the way you spoke, the way you fall in love
with everything and more. You are beautiful not only because of you are on the
outside, but who you are on the inside and trust me, my grandmother said it
didn't matter if my grandfather was good looking he was the only man who got
her jokes.
You don’t have to be beautiful according to society rules,
you are beautiful. There is no predefined standard, and you don’t have to be
beautiful for someone to fall in love with you.
If love was shallow, we wouldn't have poets and authors
around writing about it. You do you, you make your own choices, and if any of
these days you feel like you’re not good enough or as pretty as your friends,
you stop and you realise how beautiful you are and you can be.
People are going to hurt you. Bad. Some people might mean
it, some people might not but you cannot let anyone take away your happiness
away from you. If a person makes you happy and you’re dependent on that person,
that is fine. You’re worth all happiness, but know if a person hurts or leaves
you, and this person made you happy, let them go. It’s not worth it to have
something full of poison by you because it feels good, because at the end of
the day, the poison remains and you crumble. You will find better people, you
will find more happiness in what you bring yourself then what others bring to
you. And if you find more happiness with what people bring to you, that is okay
as well, just remember at the end of the day YOU matter.
Lastly, the thing I learnt about life is that, it sucks, but
there is nothing I wouldn't do to get up every morning and see the face of the
person I love and watch the sunset. Because right now I am alive. I am
everything I want to be.
So try loving yourself, put the puzzle pieces together, the
fight is worth it.
